This is Tom from Ispreadyourmessage.com with some great tips for life and the answer to a big question such as; should I use a dating service to help my pathetic social life?

Lol, well if you are like me not satisfied with cruising bars and clubs, and grocery stores. Then this could be your next step to trying to find the right person to spend time with. Even for those of us who were already in a life long relationship but recently found out your partner felt you had lived longer then she was prepared to stay then this could be for you.

I know you are saying; Right I am not that desperate! Well lets see how desperate you are, do you go to a bar with the fantasy that someone will come up to you and be interested in a long term relationship, that person would also happen to like the outdoors, football on Sundays and plays golf. They are also financially solvent and would like to tell you everything about themselves that would not include a domestic violence history, terrorist activity and a few arrests. Sure that person is there waiting for you @ Flagler Tavern yeah right! That is my point you meet these people and they may look nice, but you do not know anything about them. Not just that they may have a history that would make you feel uncomfortable with, but also what makes you think that by chance you two are actually compatible. That you have the same belief values, or that you want a family, or that you do not want a family. In fact all those very critical issues would not be discovered until a month or two of serious dating. Then when you find out that it is not possible to spend any more time then is necessary with this chance person you have met, but it will take at least another couple of attempts to end it and by now you are out the money and time from your life you can never recover. So you just wasted two months of your life and maybe the cost of a restraining order to discover that person of chance was just that you taking your chances. So who is desperate?

Thus my point dating services can be great for people who have discovered that life is better with a partner. If that is not you please do not let me interrupt you any longer go back to looking for overnight dates here on the internet, I wish you luck. Oh by the way I was told today that 50% of internet dating service members are married, 25% Are not who they say they are, in fact only 10% of all those member profiles actually close enough to normal to actually consider. But have at that if you like those odds. I am discussing real dating service, has an established business history like Great Expectations. They have been in business before Al Gore created the internet. 30 years of putting the right people together safely. They SCREEN their members, background checks, criminal checks, financial checks. They have a   psychological interview establishing the commitment of the person wanting to be a member. They do the first two months of bad dating for you, without you losing your dignity!  Think about it, you can meet people that you already have established that you have a lot in common with, same interests, same wants or you can keep cruising that per chance that guy you just met last night has an uncanny resemblance to the guy on Channel 13 just escaped from Seminole county jail. Really why take the risk if you are serious about your relationships.

First tip Zoosk and Ashley Madison and other internet sites that you run across are very good. That is if you own these sites you would be making anywhere from $9.99 to $24.95 from 5000 suckers per day. If you are one of those suckers signing up seriously you would get more honesty by reviewing registered sex offender profiles living in your area. If it advertises that women are waiting for men over 40 take it from my real life experiences women are not sitting around waiting for you to sign up. Remember the one you just sent a flirt note to is actually a male 60 year old that gets off pretending to be a women on line, so go ahead share your inner feeling with him/her it should all turn out.

All I am saying is desperate is relative to what you want. I think it is very desperate to take a chance on something as important as your heart and life time partner. If there was a way to get a real start, and nothing standing in your way but you? Not unknown baggage. Why would you not do this? Here is why it is great that Great Expectations rejected me today. It is proof there system works. I have know idea what I want, or what I am prepared to commit to after my last disaster of a marriage. I have trust issues right now with potential partners, so not the right time, and they saw that.

If you are interested in being serious go to their site I recommend it. Fill out the quick questionnaire and a real person will call you and set an appointment for you to meet with the counselor I was called by Kimberly, she was extremely nice and listened carefully. She was upbeat and made me feel like I just made the first good decision about relationships in years. She was right, I have learned a lot in the past few days as this developed. I went in this morning for the “Interview”. Let’s talk about that for a minute. It was great it was honest and one of the best conversations I have had in years when it came to the subject of relationships. Side note to Great Expectations, it is very hard to remember that you came looking for a person to have a relationship with when you provide an interviewer, Sophie, that is the perfect women. A little hard to stay focused, she was drop dead beautiful, highly intelligent and was able to communicate and made you feel like you were special. Who wants to meet anyone after meeting her, but the idea is she evaluating you for the established membership. They wish to help you but first you must pass the muster for the sake of the established members. They do not want people joining that are not currently good partner material. As it turns out I am not but that means they really know their business and you could contact them with confidence. If they have you become a member. Your odds of having the right lasting relationship just hit the jackpot. In these times life is not very good alone, but it is worse with the wrong one. Give this a shot I believe it will change your life for the good. Remember send me your comments and thank you for listening see you tomorrow